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      <image:caption>Best Seller. The book that changed the way we think about intimacy. In this expanded third edition, Brenda draws on years of feedback to foster an understanding of love addiction:  what it is and is not, how to identify it, why it is so common, and, more important, how to break free of it.  “Brenda is one of those gifted recovery writers whose works someday will be regarded as classic.”                                      — Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. “Her recommendations for Healthy Belonging are right on. An enthusiastic thumbs-up!                                           —Jennifer Schneider, M.D., Ph.D. “Dr. Schaeffer, thank you for writing this book.  It saved my life.  I just wish I had read it earlier and maybe I would still be in my relationship.”                                                                                          —A real fan of yours   Available in Paperback, eBook or audiobook from these retailers:</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>Love’s Way soars beyond the psychology of love addiction to become a guide to a modern love that does justice to the power and mystery of love itself.  In this book we learn that body, ego, soul, and spirit each have a challenging assignment to assure a vibrant twenty-first century love life.  Love’s Way tells us how trauma, betrayal, and loss of innocence leave our hearts raw and closed to a love that is right at our fingertips. “Warm, personal, illuminating. Dr. Schaeffer weaves a rich tapestry of perspectives on the multidimensional nature of love—with and without a partner.”                                                       —Charlotte Sophia Kasl, Ph.D. “One of Brenda Schaeffer’s contributions, is bringing in the role of the living, knowing spirit in the body.  Without this rooting, our relationships are built on a house of cards."                        —Peter A. Levine, Ph.D.  “By far one of Dr. Schaeffer’s best books.  It caused me to look at love in a much bigger way.  The memos from love really made me stop and reflect.  So much to think about.”                                           —A Dr. Brenda fan Available in paperback or eBook from these retailers:</image:caption>
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