Is It Love or Is It Addiction?

Words we often associate with addiction include obsessive, excessive, destructive, habitual, attached, dependent, and sick. And when you think about it, some of these words can be used to talk about love relationships or our use of sex. This does not mean love is a habit we have to kick. Our need to experience love is real—the goal is to identify and keep addictive elements out of our love life and bring healthy elements in. Through my clinical experience I learned relationships have the characteristics of both addictive love and healthy belonging and most people do not know the difference.

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What You Can Learn from Grip of the Hawk

A psychologist has sometimes been described as an advice giver.  And though I want to guide patients to answers when possible, my non-fiction books are filled with advice and useful self-help tools.  But what about in my novel, Grip of the Hawk?  Are there lessons to be learned?  The answer is yes.

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A Personal Look at My Professional Life

I often get asked how I became a psychologist and author.  I like to quip that becoming a psychologist started when I was 4 years old when, like other kids, I tried to take care of my mother’s feelings.  Sometimes it even worked.  I had a natural empathy for people and as a teen I helped my friends solve their family and relationship problems with some success.  It seemed logical that I would find my way to working with the human mind. But

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Holiday Blues - Part I

It is upon us: the season of good cheer, warm fuzzies and togetherness.  Or so they say.  If we are to be decking the halls with lots of jollies, why is it that so many grumble and grunt, get sick, anxious and depressed or simply “bah humbug” it all?  And even if we do look forward to the holiday, what can we do to guarantee more joy, love and well being during this time?

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